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Honoring Dr. Ruth: The Queen of Sex Education

Today, we're taking a moment to celebrate the incredible life of Dr. Ruth Westheimer, who recently passed away. Known to many simply as Dr. Ruth, she was a true pioneer in the world of sexual education and therapy, and her impact on our understanding of sex and relationships is unmatched.


🎙️From Surviving to Thriving🎙️
Dr. Ruth's journey is nothing short of inspiring. Born in Germany in 1928, she escaped the horrors of the Holocaust by moving to Switzerland at a young age. After the war, she ended up in Israel as a sniper (yes, you read that right!) before making her way to France and then the U.S. to pursue her studies. With a Doctorate from Columbia University, she was unstoppable.


🎙️The Voice We Needed🎙️
Dr. Ruth became a household name in the 80s with her radio show "Sexually Speaking," where she dished out candid advice on sex and relationships. Her no-nonsense, friendly approach made her a trusted figure for anyone looking for guidance on topics that were often kept hush-hush.


She didn't just stop at radio. Dr. Ruth wrote tons of books, hosted TV shows, and became a beloved cultural icon. She made talking about sex normal, healthy, and, most importantly, fun!


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A Friend to the BDSM Community🎙️
Dr. Ruth also had a special place in her heart for the BDSM community. She championed the importance of consent, communication, and mutual respect—values that are core to BDSM. Her advice helped many explore their kinks safely and confidently.


🎙️Dr. Ruth's Legacy in Media and Literature🎙️

Dr. Ruth Westheimer's influence extended far beyond her radio and TV appearances. She authored numerous books and was featured on various shows that educated and entertained millions.


Here’s a look at some of her notable works:


Notable Shows

‏𖦹 Sexually Speaking - Dr. Ruth's groundbreaking radio show that started it all. Listen here.

‏𖦹 The Dr. Ruth Show - Her popular television show where she answered viewers' questions about sex and relationships. Watch clips here.

𖦹 Good Sex! With Dr. Ruth Westheimer - Another TV show where she discussed sex with her trademark candor and humor.

‏𖦹 Ask Dr. Ruth - A documentary film exploring her incredible life story. Watch on Hulu.


Must-Read Books

𖦹 "Sex for Dummies" - A comprehensive guide to sexual health and intimacy.

𖦹 "Dr. Ruth's Guide to Good Sex" - Practical advice on achieving a fulfilling sex life.

𖦹 "The Art of Arousal" - Exploring the history and psychology of sexual arousal.

"Dr. Ruth's Top 10 Secrets for Great Sex" - Tips and tricks for enhancing your sexual experience.

𖦹 "Sexually Speaking: What Every Woman Needs to Know about Sexual Health" - Focused on women's sexual health and well-being.

"Dr. Ruth's Guide to Talking About Herpes" - Tackling the sensitive topic of ‏𖦹 STDs with her trademark empathy and knowledge.

"Sex for Dummies 2nd Edition" - An updated version with even more insights and information.


For those who want to delve deeper into Dr. Ruth's teachings, these shows and books are fantastic resources. They offer a wealth of knowledge, all presented with Dr. Ruth's unique blend of humor, warmth, and straightforward advice.


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Remembering the Legend🎙️
Dr. Ruth’s legacy isn’t just about what she taught us; it’s about how she made us feel. Her warmth, humor, and compassion made tough conversations about sex easy and approachable. She empowered millions to embrace their desires and talk openly with their partners.


As we remember Dr. Ruth, let's keep her spirit alive by continuing to talk openly and honestly about sex and relationships. Her wisdom has paved the way for more understanding and acceptance, and her legacy will inspire us for years to come.


🎙️Let’s Chat🎙️
How did Dr. Ruth influence your views on sex and relationships? Drop your thoughts in the comments below and let’s celebrate her amazing life together.


Dr. Ruth: Holocaust Survivor and Sex Therapist | Full Testimony | USC Shoah Foundation


August 11-12 is Tu B'Av, the Jewish Day of Love. In her full testimony, Holocaust survivor, sex therapist, and media personality, Dr. Ruth Westheimer, discusses love after tragedy and trauma.

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Sexually Speaking: An Evening with Dr. Ruth

Join the Office of Public Lectures for an evening with behavioral therapist, sexpert and Alzheimer’s caregiving authority, Dr. Ruth Westheimer. Moderated by Dr. Pepper Schwartz.

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Dr. Ruth's Youtube Channel

Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist who sprang to national attention in the early 80's following the beginning of her live radio call-in program, Sexually Speaking. She went on to have her own TV program, appeared on the cover of People Magazine and TV Guide, and is the author of 36 books and counting. Her fans of all ages can find her advice on her own website, www.drruth.com, on Twitter @AskDrRuth, and in her syndicated newspaper column.

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Ask Dr. Ruth

Ask Dr. Ruth chronicles the incredible life of Dr. Ruth Westheimer, a Holocaust survivor who became America's most famous sex therapist. As her 90th birthday approaches, she revisits her painful past and career at the forefront of the sexual revolution.

Starring: Dr. Ruth

Director: Ryan White

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Sex for Dummies

Looking for the straight facts on sex? In this friendly, authoritative guide, renowned sex therapist Dr. Ruth gives you the latest on everything from oral sex and popular positions to new methods of birth control. She also debunks sex myths and covers new therapies to manage low libido, overcome sexual dysfunction, and enhance pleasure.

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Dr. Ruth's Guide to Good Sex

A frank, engaging discussion of sexual problems and sexual enhancement ranges from the basics to gay sex, sex and the elderly, and sexual exercises and incorporates anecdotes and quotations

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The Art of Arousal

This irresistible volume presents 130 of the most engagingly erotic paintings, sculptures, prints, and drawings from diverse eras and cultures, coupled with revealing commentaries about their sexual and aesthetic content. In its organization, The Art of Arousal traces the course of a sensual relationship.

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Dr. Ruth's Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex: How to Enjoy it, Share it, and Love it

Dr. Ruth's Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex How to Enjoy it, Share it, and Love it Each and Every Time by Westheimer, Ruth K.. Published by Jossey-Bass,2009, Paperback

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Sexually Speaking: What Every Woman Needs to Know about Sexual Health

Written in Dr. Ruth's refreshingly candid and lively style, it gives you everything you need to take charge of your health, from finding a gynecologist to having a happy sex life to planning or avoiding a pregnancy. With practical advice and information for every age and stage of a woman's life, Sexually Speaking is an invaluable reference you will turn to again and again.

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Dr. Ruth's Guide to Talking About Herpes

This book is not only for people who have just discovered they have herpes, but also for the millions of Americans who are living with herpes and want a game plan for talking about their disease with fellow herpes sufferers, loved ones, and potential lovers. Structured throughout the book, in addition to Dr. Ruth's no-nonsense advice, are quotes from people who are living with herpes that Dr. Ruth interviewed at length for this book. Each chapter concludes with a list of helpful pointers or highlights summarizing the main points discussed within that chapter.

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Sex For Dummies

S-e-x isn’t a bad three-letter word—but many of us are afraid to talk about it. In this new edition of the fun and comprehensive guide to sex, you’ll find out how to approach intimacy in a new way to get the most pleasure from a physical relationship. Written by the world’s favorite expert on the topic, Dr. Ruth helps you explore the ins and outs of dating and commitment, talk about sex with partners, and consider any health and social issues you may encounter along the way.


As well as giving you all you need to know about how to make your sex life happy, safe, and rewarding, this edition of Sex for Dummies has been updated to include discussions of recent changes and issues surrounding sexual topics — such as transgender rights and the #metoo movement — to provide a modern, 360-degree view of how our diverse sexualities impact and enrich the world around us. 

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